Getting married & planning a wedding can be nerve racking, scary & down right stressful. Not only is it a major life change, but putting together everything for that one day takes the skills & finesse of Martha Stewart. And it completely takes over your life, sucking up most (if not all) of your free time. There are, however, some lovely things that take place when people know you are a bride to be. Last week, at the restaurant, I had a night when I just wasn't myself. I kept bumping into things, making lots of mistakes & I lost count of the glasses & plates that I dropped - shattering to the ground. Instead of getting frustrated with the clumsy spell I was under, co-workers just announced, "She's getting married in 3 weeks." Everyone, even customers, nod with understanding.
I guess I never really noticed all of the attention lavished on brides to be. Total strangers notice your ring & ask when the big date is. They reminiscence about their wedding days & wish you lots of luck. Friends call just to see how you're doing & if they can be of any help to you. I feel as if I been especially spoiled. My mom & Aunt throw me a gorgeous white Xmas themed shower back in November. My NYC friends throw a fab surprise shower that featured the most amazing culinary delights. And as if that wasn't enough to make a girl feel loved, I received a special surprise from some of my web pals. Giao,Hope,Jes,Leslie & Kathleen got together & sent me beautiful wedding presents. I received a shiny, stainless steel kettle to brew my daily green tea & a meat grinder, so that I can finally make a proper chicken salad sandwich. WHOO HOO!! And Hope & her very lovely man Mike, sent us the prettiest white wine glasses. I was just so touched by their kindness. And so was Tom. He just can not get over all of the amazing people I've met through this site. And I know I've said this before, but, I truly feel blessed to not only have met them (my fab web girls) online, but in person as well. Giao, Hope, Jes, Leslie & Kathleen - I'm sending lots of thanks & hugs & kisses your way!!
It's so very nice to come home from a long night of work & have a package sitting on the kitchen counter. Wedding gift? Nope. It's Gifty 3!!! Wow, was I spoiled by the very sweet & crafty Jenn. She put together an amazing array of goodies. Handmade scented heart satchels (already in undie drawer), N.H. fudge (already eaten), sweet tarts (gone, too), a vintage cookbook, "10 cakes husbands love" (for my soon to be hubby), a game book, & lots of fun stickers, papers & beads. I also received the cutest stuffed animal - a Jenn original. I'm always amazed by all of the crafts/projects that she posts on her site. And now I have one her creations to call my own. Thanks Jenn! You really made my day!!
I'll be a married women in just under 3 weeks! Can you believe it? Yes, I'm stressing, but things are beginning to fall into place. Well, not exactly fall, there's been lots of hard work, late nights & even some tears behind it all. I'm exhausted & am looking so very forward to the honeymoon!!
There's a new addition to my large Italian family. Jared David was born early Monday. He arrived right on target, although it's hard to tell because my cousin Lea's due date was changed about 4 times. She looked ready to drop him at Xmas time, but baby Jared was not quite ready to enter the world, yet. My family kept telling her that she was going to go into labor on Super Bowl Sunday & sure enough her water broke right before the game started. She called her doctor right away & told him that although her water broke, she wasn't having any contractions. He told her to try & hold out until after the game!! And it a very good thing that the Miami Dolphins were not playing because her husband David is their biggest fan & he probably wouldn't have missed that for anything.
Lea had a pretty rough labor & delivered natural (not really by choice). She pushed so hard that she broke all of the blood vessels in her face & eyes. Now that's something they never tell you about the joys of child birth. Anyway, my cousin was feeling pretty exhausted when her brother(the baby's godfather), walked into her hospital room & exclaimed, "My God! What did you give birth through your face!!??" Isn't brotherly love grand? The baby is a healthy 8 pounds & 11 ounces & he is the 29th family member. I'm counting just grandparents, my mom, her sisters, their mates, 1st cousins & their partners & all of the 4th generation babies. Only the family members who gather for functions & holidays. Isn't he cute!! I'll get to meet him in person in a couple of weeks.
I'm spinning so many plates right now that I'm freeling a bit out of control. Yes, you all know about the wedding stress. Things are coming together slowly, but not quick enough for my liking. I'm also working with a professional organizer named Sally. She's teaching me the basics & helping me set up my business. She asked me about 2 months ago what I wanted to specialize in. Some professional organizers work well with people with ADD or the chronically disorganized(yes, it really does exist) but, that's not for me. I told her that I wanted to reorganized & designed the spaces. My brain does that anyway. Whenever I walk into a space, & I do mean any space; a doctor's office, dorm room, store, home, etc.., my brain redecorates & organizes them. This has been happening as far back as I can remember. And now there's shows all about this - Neat, Mission Organization, Clean Sweep. OK, but, here's the weird thing. While I was telling Sally all of this, my cell phone rang. I didn't notice the number & didn't answer it. Later, I listened to the message & it was from an interior designer that I had met in the summer through a friend. She needed help & wanted to talk about us working together!
The award winning designer is Christina Manca & her company is Drawing Board Designs, Inc. You may recognize her from TLC or HGTV because she's appeared on both. We've been working together since the week before Xmas. Right now she's just teaching me all of the business stuff & helping me set up a portfolio. We bid on my 1st job, a dressing room & are waiting to hear if I get it. She's very sweet, but also tough. And you all know that I'm so bad with computer programs & she's witnessed that 1st hand. I've got tons & tons to learn - Quickbook, CAD, Photoshop - I've been freaking out!!! I know that when we get to the creative part I'll be able to knock her socks off, but, right now, I don't think my computer skills (or lack of) are wowing her. And I'm still working at the restaurant while doing all of these things. Although I've been getting shifts covered to work on the other more exciting stuff. And I'm still working on the cookbook, too. I'll put that back on the front burner after my wedding & honeymoon because I'm so ready to be done with it!! That's what I've been up to. If I seem a bit frazzled or out of whack, well, at least you all know why.