We are knee deep in the planning of our shindig. Save the date cards must be designed & sent out by the end of August. This weekend we're off to RI for a food tasting & meeting with the photographer & lighting designer. We have not even begun to look for a DJ or musicians for the ceremony. We still have to decide who our honor attendants will be. No floral designer as of yet. Still thinking that I may make the centerpieces & bouquets myself. So many details & so little time. And here's the best part - Tom & I have been fighting like crazy about all of this stuff. We suddenly can't agree on even the smallest detail! There have been quite a few yelling matches already & it's so stressful. When does the wedding stuff actually become fun? Why didn't anyone warn me? Did anyone else go through this or was the entire planning process sheer bliss? Yes, I'm freaking out a bit & wondering if we should have just run off & eloped in the Caribbean. Will it all be worth it in the end?!?
The trick is to remember that your guests will really only remember seeing how happy you guys are and not all the little details that you're worry about. So, just breath.
Just kidding. It will be! I think everyone kind of goes through this when they're planning it. But try to focus on having fun. Really at the end of the day, if you're married that's all that matters. Flowers and dresses and food don't make someone more married.
planning a wedding is no fun. and very stressful. not at all what the movies, etc. make you think. my first wedding was anyway! my second wedding we got married on Halloween and everybody came in costume. it was supposed to be very relaxed and casual, but it was still pretty stressful to get planned. and yes, it will be worth it. it will feel like it goes by quick but you will drag out that wedding album at least twice a year and laugh and cry and all manner of other things looking over the pictures. so try to enjoy! I can't wait to see pictures!!
Now you'll understand why I've been telling my boyfriend for years that if he really wants to get married I will only agree to it if it's just the TWO of us at the ceremony. :) I'm sure it will all be worth it...AND I think every bride goes through major stress. A friend of my brother's got married a couple of weeks ago...we saw him right before the wedding...and he said he and his fiancee had never fought like they did during the wedding planning. Hang in there...someday you'll look back on this chapter...and breathe a big sigh of relief that you won't have to go through THAT again. :) In the meantime, I hope you get some enjoyment out of choosing all your special details.
If you run away and elope you will NEVER HEAR THE END OF IT from your large, rather vocal family.
My advice is to not sweat the small stuff. The only thing that really lasts is the photos, so don't try to save money there. Everything else only lasts one day. Unless you give your dress to your daughter.....
It will all be worth it in the end! It really is a stressful thing to go to, and the irony of the fights happens for nearly everyone, even those blissful couples who never fight. Weird, isn't it? Just as long as you both in the end are happy together (and you will be!!), all the little quibbles and squabbles will eventually fade away and you'll be able to look back and giggle about, why did I freak about that? Take care of you. It'll all be fine and great in the end!!
My son and daughter-in-law hired a wedding planner and still things were stressful and little things went wrong, but the beauty of it is that no one really notices or cares! When their big day arrived they were just so happy, and in blissful love, that NOTHING else mattered -- and that is the way it should be! Just try to keep a sense of humor about it all and remember that as long as your guests are fed well they'll be happy! :-)
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At 12:49 AM, Winnie said...
The trick is to remember that your guests will really only remember seeing how happy you guys are and not all the little details that you're worry about. So, just breath.
At 7:56 AM, Anonymous said...
will it be worth it? NO
Just kidding. It will be!
I think everyone kind of goes through this when they're planning it. But try to focus on having fun. Really at the end of the day, if you're married that's all that matters. Flowers and dresses and food don't make someone more married.
At 9:23 AM, Jenn said...
planning a wedding is no fun. and very stressful. not at all what the movies, etc. make you think. my first wedding was anyway! my second wedding we got married on Halloween and everybody came in costume. it was supposed to be very relaxed and casual, but it was still pretty stressful to get planned. and yes, it will be worth it. it will feel like it goes by quick but you will drag out that wedding album at least twice a year and laugh and cry and all manner of other things looking over the pictures. so try to enjoy! I can't wait to see pictures!!
At 4:09 PM, mrsmogul said...
weddings can be stressful, that's why I wanted to run away to elope. You'll be glad once you're exchanging your vows!
At 11:27 AM, Marilyn said...
Now you'll understand why I've been telling my boyfriend for years that if he really wants to get married I will only agree to it if it's just the TWO of us at the ceremony. :) I'm sure it will all be worth it...AND I think every bride goes through major stress. A friend of my brother's got married a couple of weeks ago...we saw him right before the wedding...and he said he and his fiancee had never fought like they did during the wedding planning. Hang in there...someday you'll look back on this chapter...and breathe a big sigh of relief that you won't have to go through THAT again. :) In the meantime, I hope you get some enjoyment out of choosing all your special details.
At 12:37 PM, glycerin said...
If you run away and elope you will NEVER HEAR THE END OF IT from your large, rather vocal family.
My advice is to not sweat the small stuff. The only thing that really lasts is the photos, so don't try to save money there. Everything else only lasts one day. Unless you give your dress to your daughter.....
At 6:24 PM, Giao said...
It will all be worth it in the end! It really is a stressful thing to go to, and the irony of the fights happens for nearly everyone, even those blissful couples who never fight. Weird, isn't it? Just as long as you both in the end are happy together (and you will be!!), all the little quibbles and squabbles will eventually fade away and you'll be able to look back and giggle about, why did I freak about that? Take care of you. It'll all be fine and great in the end!!
At 5:07 PM, Pat said...
My son and daughter-in-law hired a wedding planner and still things were stressful and little things went wrong, but the beauty of it is that no one really notices or cares!
When their big day arrived they were just so happy, and in blissful love, that NOTHING else mattered -- and that is the way it should be!
Just try to keep a sense of humor about it all and remember that as long as your guests are fed well they'll be happy! :-)